Saturday, May 14, 2011

feeling of insecurity in relationships

Assalamualaikum.
Last week me and a few friends talked a lil bout love stuff until we reached the topic insecurity. One of them admitted that she had this feeling of insecurity in relationships after what she had experienced before - being lied to.

Sometimes you need to let go the past.

From the conversation, I can say that most of the feeling of insecurity come after a break up. When a relationship ends, you just can't imagine how disorienting it can be, especially when one of the two is very committed to the relationship. Then when you are up to start a new relationship, you would feel terrify that someone else would steal your partner away from you once again.

Feeling insecurity in relationships happened when you are not confident of yourselves. When you think that you are not good enough for your partner in the matter of look or whatever, you will always think that he or she will be looking for someone to replace you. ~Oh i have this feeling. =="
If you ask me, I will try not to deal with issues that leave me feeling intimidated. It is okay to avoid the issues, but I am a total liar if I said I am not worry of it at all, then I tend to start talking about the stuff that makes me feel insecure again. huhu. I am just being self-protective. I think that I need an answer, and I will find it.
That is the difference between a man and a woman - how they deal with insecurity. A woman usually will openly discuss this among close friends in an attempt to get over them so then she will feel better. However, a man keeps them as a top secret. This made us think that only woman have the feeling of insecurity.

Me? I seldom discuss this with my close friends because I prefer to tell my partner personally but finally it will end with a ----- no more texting. lol
~Let it be, it is just because man usually do not understand the complexity of a woman, and women herself never realized how complicated they are.


Feels like errr- what am I babbling about here? haha. Pergi dulu, jangan rindu-rindu ;)


p/s : I love the way you keep you cool when I am complicated~

16 comments:

intan.maisarah said...

saya seorang sukar diramal dalam perhubungan
dan saya juga,
seorang yang tidak menaruhkan harapan yang tinggi
takut disakiti lagi



morning dear :)

siti.syafiqah said...

betol2... huhu

Bo0lat's Heart said...

Mmg cam x phm pun haha! Naaa I'm just joking.. Love is complicated.. girls & guys are complicated in their own way.. Its simple, just feel the love from your boyfie.. Love is not just bout saying "I love you".. If you can feel his love than u should stop worrying & throw those insecurity away~ I did have this feeling b4 but after 2 years together, it went away =) Merepek jgk nie* =P

chemay said...

heee dulu masa mula2 jumpa bf baru..
rasa macam ni..
then bila dah lama..
the secure feeling tuh dah ada,
sometimes kena cakap elok2 dekat partner..
then he'll understand :)

Sca Ndx said...

trust. kbai

catherine- said...

this entry remind me of that bitch:- janda

perempuan, jangan tunjuk sgt kebodohan mempertahankan sesuatu yg x pasti. rileks sudah... mmg la takut boifren di rampas org, tp x perlulah kot sampai buat perangai yg annoying.

ok. bunyi mcm emo. bai.

ghost writer said...

lelaki menjadi perahsia tentang apa - apa yang jadi dalam hidup dia sebab dia tahu itu akan dijadikan point untuk seorang pompuan apalagi teman wanitanya.

Pja Ismail said...

Aha! Sca Ndx komen benda yang sama saya nak komen!

emieysandra said...

skg masih cube menerima sdg kenangan cinta lama sllu dtg~

shameel Iskandar said...

perhubungan melibatkan kemanusiaan. dlm mmeperkatakannya perlukan hati dan perasaan. susah ditebak dan sukar diagak.

khairul_bariyyah said...

sudah 4x ditipu.. macam serik tp, still there's no "no entry" sign to fall in love again.. :(

HEROICzero said...

tak tahu dengan circle lelaki yg lain, tapi aku, dan kenalan, sering juga berbicara tentang topik ini.

dan akhir nya, menjadi bahan ketawa, tapi its a gud thing lah.

hilang stres, and perspektif akan menjadi lebih luas, selalu nya.

heh.

Jejentik said...

me too..have this feeling
but for me, i had become like this not because of experience but being scared after seeing too much 'drama' in other couple life...being dumped and lied..

aLya maNip said...

betul tu..kdang2, relation skrg mmpu bermasalah bila jadi seme ni sbb break up yg lepas..huhu

DuniakuAbstrak said...

perlu ada rasa risau tu, kalau yakin 100% pun tak bagus jugak

JIJI YU said...

btol le tu